Comments on: Death and Love http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/ A Spirited Adventure Trancending Ordinary Bounds Tue, 15 May 2012 22:43:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lark In Flight » Blog Archive » 28th Birthday: Vampires and 5400 Years of Love http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-171 Lark In Flight » Blog Archive » 28th Birthday: Vampires and 5400 Years of Love Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:37:06 +0000 http://larkinflight.com/?p=463#comment-171 [...] what is Death then?  What roll does it play?  What roll should it play?  Well F$%& Death!  I’ve had a [...] [...] what is Death then?  What roll does it play?  What roll should it play?  Well F$%& Death!  I’ve had a [...]

]]> By: Larkin http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-170 Larkin Wed, 27 May 2009 18:24:55 +0000 http://larkinflight.com/?p=463#comment-170 Wow Kath, that is a really hard situation. *hug!* If I were him and saw what drugs did to me, I would be so tempted to run away to the wilderness and do something that would keep me away from drugs for the rest of my life. It must be so rough to know that someone you love might be harming themself, and yet be unable to help them. The strong side, is that when he conquers this himself (because that's what will eventually have to happen), he will be SO strong! It is a hard forest to navigate through, but wow, what power he will have when he figure it out! Thank you for sharing a little of your grief and heart. Hope your day is wonderful, and bright, and that the next call you get from your nephew is to tell you something beautiful. Wow Kath, that is a really hard situation. *hug!* If I were him and saw what drugs did to me, I would be so tempted to run away to the wilderness and do something that would keep me away from drugs for the rest of my life.

It must be so rough to know that someone you love might be harming themself, and yet be unable to help them. The strong side, is that when he conquers this himself (because that’s what will eventually have to happen), he will be SO strong! It is a hard forest to navigate through, but wow, what power he will have when he figure it out!

Thank you for sharing a little of your grief and heart. Hope your day is wonderful, and bright, and that the next call you get from your nephew is to tell you something beautiful.

]]> By: Larkin http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-169 Larkin Wed, 27 May 2009 17:47:46 +0000 http://larkinflight.com/?p=463#comment-169 Trey, thanks for sharing. I remember that tatoo, and actually talked to Sean about it while we were all in Pai. It puzzled me somehow, so your description closed a previous question from way back. I recently watched part of Seven Pounds, and was struck by the outlet he chose to deal with his loss of meaniing in life. It was striking to see such a mainstream movie deal with suicide in such a different light. Watch it if you get a chance, and let me know if it makes an impression on you. I don't have any tatoos, and don't know if I ever will, but I do have a scar that reminds me about the preciousness of life, and the importance of each moment. I like your wedge of reason, although it is so hard for me to believe suicide can come from a position of strength. I've tried that thought train before and had a really difficult time with it. It came up when I read Atlas Shrugged (blog post about it if you're curious http://larkinflight.com/?p=308 ) and was presented with the idea of suicide as a part of living free. I understand the concept, but in practicality, unless one is captured and forced to do things against ones morals it seems like there are many more options. Trey, I'm glad we're still in touch, even as periodically as it is. You have a lot of deep thoughts and great points of view on the world. It was a fortunate day that we met 2 years ago. Trey, thanks for sharing. I remember that tatoo, and actually talked to Sean about it while we were all in Pai. It puzzled me somehow, so your description closed a previous question from way back.

I recently watched part of Seven Pounds, and was struck by the outlet he chose to deal with his loss of meaniing in life. It was striking to see such a mainstream movie deal with suicide in such a different light. Watch it if you get a chance, and let me know if it makes an impression on you.

I don’t have any tatoos, and don’t know if I ever will, but I do have a scar that reminds me about the preciousness of life, and the importance of each moment.

I like your wedge of reason, although it is so hard for me to believe suicide can come from a position of strength. I’ve tried that thought train before and had a really difficult time with it. It came up when I read Atlas Shrugged (blog post about it if you’re curious http://larkinflight.com/?p=308 ) and was presented with the idea of suicide as a part of living free. I understand the concept, but in practicality, unless one is captured and forced to do things against ones morals it seems like there are many more options.

Trey, I’m glad we’re still in touch, even as periodically as it is. You have a lot of deep thoughts and great points of view on the world. It was a fortunate day that we met 2 years ago.

]]> By: Lark In Flight » Blog Archive » Commencement… to Life! http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-168 Lark In Flight » Blog Archive » Commencement… to Life! Tue, 26 May 2009 16:37:18 +0000 http://larkinflight.com/?p=463#comment-168 [...] one of my posts, because it is something I think about every day.  I recently wrote a post about death, exploring life from the perspective of it’s negative space.  I spent the weekend spending [...] [...] one of my posts, because it is something I think about every day.  I recently wrote a post about death, exploring life from the perspective of it’s negative space.  I spent the weekend spending [...]

]]> By: Kath http://larkinflight.com/blog/death-and-love/comment-page-1/#comment-167 Kath Tue, 26 May 2009 05:44:05 +0000 http://larkinflight.com/?p=463#comment-167 The love of my life, my nephew, has tried to kill himself 9 times. When he's drug-free, he's fine. When he's not, he tries to end it all. He's been in and out of rehab. In and out of counseling. I've talked to him until I can't talk anymore as has the rest of my family. He has no good explanation...he doesn't even try...he just says when the drugs take over, he's a different person that hates himself and what he's done and what he's put his family through. When I get the calls that he's gone missing...again...a little part of me dies. Steeling myself to the possibility that the next call I get will be that they've found his body. I just don't get it. Never have. Never will. My way of coping is to convince myself that he's not 100% himself when he overdoses. How could he be? Maybe because I can't believe that someone with as much talent, intelligence, empathy, kindness and potential could throw it all away? Suicide is the eternal question why that is never truly answered. I feel for what you are going through and what you have gone through, Larkin. And don't really have any advice to offer other than to do what you've already done; honor your friend's memory and never forget him. Hugs, Kath The love of my life, my nephew, has tried to kill himself 9 times.

When he’s drug-free, he’s fine. When he’s not, he tries to end it all.

He’s been in and out of rehab. In and out of counseling. I’ve talked to him until I can’t talk anymore as has the rest of my family. He has no good explanation…he doesn’t even try…he just says when the drugs take over, he’s a different person that hates himself and what he’s done and what he’s put his family through.

When I get the calls that he’s gone missing…again…a little part of me dies. Steeling myself to the possibility that the next call I get will be that they’ve found his body.

I just don’t get it. Never have. Never will.

My way of coping is to convince myself that he’s not 100% himself when he overdoses. How could he be? Maybe because I can’t believe that someone with as much talent, intelligence, empathy, kindness and potential could throw it all away?

Suicide is the eternal question why that is never truly answered.

I feel for what you are going through and what you have gone through, Larkin. And don’t really have any advice to offer other than to do what you’ve already done; honor your friend’s memory and never forget him.

Hugs,

Kath

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